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Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back

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Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back

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Our brains can detect potentially dangerous situations and our natural instinct is to stay safe. So when the going gets tough, guess what we will do? 

Yep, we will keep ourselves in our comfort zone!

The zone of no growth.

Yellow people actively reflect and plan for the future. They identify what is holding them back and are ruthless on their journey to success. 

We all have some or all of the 7 fears types. The challenge we have is allowing fears to control us instead of managing them.

When we crush fears, it allows us to get through the storm to enjoy the beauty in life.

What personally held me back for many years was being judged and not accepted, in society and within my career. So I stayed safe at the detriment of my own wellbeing and career development. It was me who lost in that situation.

The day I woke up to my fears, I learned how to use them to my advantage so that my life started to change for the better. 

I launched my own business in a field that I had never worked in before. I knew my passion, and I owned my fears.

Are you ready to be bold too?

So what are the 7 types of fear?

The procrastinator

The Procrastinator is closely linked with the perfectionist. These people must perfect everything, and so obsess with the end product. The planning stages never quite gets finished or if they do start, they struggle to stop until it has been “perfected” to their very high standards. 

The Rule Follower 

is exactly as it sounds! Compelled to act and behave accordingly to the clear definitions of what’s right and wrong, even if it’s at the expense of your own success. Rule followers constantly think about making the right decision and what they might miss out on if they took the one option and not the other. 

People Pleaser

Struggling with the fear of being judged or worry about what others think about you. God forbid someone might be disappointed – people-pleasers would do whatever the other wants instead. Saying no is a challenge. Having boundaries even harder. 

Pessimist

Are fearful of adversity or pain. Hard times in life feel more like stop signs rather than stepping stones to success. They believe that old problems get in the way of them moving forward.

An outcast

is common for entrepreneurs. Others see them as fearless but deep down, an outcast is afraid of rejection so they push away people first. Asking for help is another problem to overcome. Trusting others to achieve an outcome is a constant internal battle when they want to do it all themselves. 

^ this was me! I felt like I was not good enough in my role, and if I exposed myself, I may be fired. I never asked for help and went on to limit my personal and career development 🙁

Self-Doubters

The deep feelings of insecurity about their capabilities. Seeing the world as an opportunity is difficult when they are so “stuck” in moving forward. Judging others who take big leaps is a way of hiding their own fears.

Excuse Maker 

We all know a few of these. Excuse makers rarely take responsibility for their life choices and goals are a mammoth challenge. Instead of taking the bold step to lead, they take a “laid back” approach to life. They find it easier for others to make decisions for them. Excuse makers always find a reason to not start, they tend to be in lack of something like money, time, a team etc. 

Each of these fears requires a particular thought pattern to reprogramme it. 

The main thing to note is that without knowing which fear is holding you back and learning how to step out of your comfort zone, you will continue to repeat the same things over and over again. 

WANT TO LEARN YOUR FEAR TYPE & WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT?

Schedule your call with me, go through a questionnaire to identify your fear type and together we can devise a plan to overcome the fear in order to achieve your biggest goals. 

BOOK TODAY HERE >>> gotoyellow.co.uk/schedule-a-call

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The Change Model

The Change Model

The Change Model

The Change Model

It’s important we understand where people come from in relation to making changes to their lifestyle that will improve their health. There is a very well-established model for this called the Stages of Change.

The Stages of Change model describes the different stages we go through when we want to change something in our lives.

Know that people can vary in the stage for different circumstances. For example, a person might be in the Action phase for improvement in their career, can also be in Precontemplation phase for smoking. While the time a person can stay in each stage is variable, the tasks required to move to the next stage are not. Those who practise change often, tend to naturally self-improve in all areas of life. A habit worth pursuing. 

It takes conscious effort to keep evolving and challenging yourself, as over time circumstances change. For example, today you may be focused on developing your career – focusing on the behaviours to amplify your success. In 5 years’ time, you become a parent – your previous behaviours such as working away from home might be adjusted to spend time with your newborn.  

6 Stages of Change

  1. Precontemplation – Not Ready

This is the first stage of change. In this stage, people do not have a desire to take action in the near future (within the next 6 months). These people are usually unaware of their behaviours causing problems for their situation. They tend to be oblivious, unwilling to discover or take responsibility for their actions. People in this stage underestimate the benefits of changing their behaviour but rather focus on the negatives of changing behaviour.

2. Contemplation – Getting Ready

In this stage, people aspire to begin the behaviour change in the near future (within the next 6 months). These people have recognised that their behaviour may be troublesome, and are thinking of the benefits of changing the behaviour, along with the negative impact. Even though they have recognised the behaviours as a problem, they may still feel doubtful of changing.

3. Preparation (Determination) – Ready

In this stage, people are ready and keen to take action soon (within the next 30 days). They prepare themselves by making adjustments, usually in small steps, and they believe changing their behaviour can lead to a more fulfilling and healthier life.

4. Action 

In this stage, the behaviour has changed (within the last 6 months) and people make a conscious effort to keep moving forward with the behaviour change. 

5. Maintenance 

In this stage, people have for a new habit as they’ve been performing the change for a while (more than 6 months). They maintain the behaviour change moving forward. People in this stage work to prevent relapsing.

6. Termination 

In this stage, people are confident in their new behaviour and have no desire to return to their unhealthy behaviours. These people tend to not relapse. Since this uncommon for many, people are most likely to stay in the maintenance stage. You do not see promotional material or marketing for people in these stages. 

 

In order to progress through the stages, people apply different processes: cognitive, affective, and evaluative. 

There have been 10 processes of change identified, with some being more relevant to a specific stage of change than others. 

 

The below processes require different strategies that help with making and maintain change.

Cognitive and Affective Experiential Processes

  1. Consciousness Raising (Get the Facts) – Increasing awareness about the behaviour.
  2. Dramatic Relief (Pay Attention to Feelings) – Emotional arousal about the behaviour, whether positive or negative.
  3. Self-Reevaluation (Notice Your Effect on self) – Self re-appraisal to realise the behaviour is part of who they want to be.
  4. Environmental Re-evaluation (Notice Your Effect on Others) – Social re-appraisal to realise how their unhealthy behaviour affects others.
  5. Social Liberation (Notice Public Support) – Environmental opportunities that exist to show society is supportive of the behaviour.

Behavioural Processes

  1. Self-Liberation (Make a Commitment)– Commitment to change behaviour based on the belief that achievement of the behaviour is possible.
  2. Helping Relationships (Get Support) – Finding supportive relationships that encourage the desired change.
  3. Counter-Conditioning (Use Substitutes) – replacing poor behaviours and thoughts for healthier behaviours and thoughts.
  4. Reinforcement Management (Use Rewards) – Rewarding positive behaviour and reducing the rewards that come from negative behaviour.
  5. Stimulus Control (Manage Your Environment) – Re-engineering the environment to have reminders and cues that support and encourage the new empowering behaviour and remove those that encourage the unhealthy behaviour.

Ready to take the leap into personal growth? 

Let me help you move through the change model to realise your potential.  I will give you 30 minutes of my time free of charge and, in return, you will give me an open mind to explore yourselves deeper. I would like you to feel what it’s like to get clarity and see the impact it makes to your personal development. 

Schedule your call here https://gotoyellow.co.uk/schedule-a-call/ and let’s craft the life you desire most

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Art of Fulfilment

Art of Fulfilment

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WHAT’S THE KEY TO FULFILLMENT?

Tony Robbins, a world authority on leadership psychology and the number 1 life and business strategist, created the Art of Fulfilment by sharing insights into mastering 2 important lessons to an epic life.  

Starting with the science of achievement which can be understood by the three forces of creation; focus, massive action and grace. However this is only half the story of success.

To be wholly fulfilled, not just from achievement, you must also live a rich life (not the financial kind). This goes beyond success. It can be achieved by finding what makes you yellow, contributing to lasting happiness.

 

MASTERING THE SCIENCE OF ACHIEVEMENT

Achievement is defined as a thing done successfully with effort, skill, or courage. Tony describes these as the following three forces. Without these, the Art of Fulfilment is difficult if you haven’t achieved anything.

 

FORCE 1: FOCUS

Fueling your focus requires desire and hunger, without this you will be unable to progress to the end. By channelling the power of clarity and commitment, results in making something happen. Activating your Reticular Activating System (RAS) allows for energy to flow to the desired success.

FORCE 2: MASSIVE ACTION

If you’re not moving forwards with the current tactics, it is time to change. Keep trying and trying, until you have mastered the task at hand. Just like learning to ride a bike, if you fall off, do you keep trying or do you give up? The best way to do this is find someone who has mastered the same task and model them. This allows for you to learn at pace than doing it alone. Learn from someone else mistakes and failures.

FORCE 3: GRACE

Some call this the “lucky”, “fortunate” or “the universe is talking to you”, whatever you want to call it, the fact is that there are times when something beyond our control happens, this is grace. Being open and accepting to grace allows for a better understanding of giving back, this is another key factor in fulfilment.

CREATING A RICH AND FULL LIFE

We have seen many people in the public eye who have a very successful career, lots of financial freedom and a fun-filled lifestyle however they remain unhappy. We view them as successful but what they aren’t, is fulfilled. If something is familiar to you, the more use you are to it, the less appreciative you become. You have the power to change this. With the right help, go to yellow can guide you to truly live a rich and full life.

UNDERSTANDING THE ART OF FULFILLMENT

To repeat the introductory message – To be wholly fulfilled, not just from achievement, you must also live a rich (not meaning financial) life. This goes beyond success. You need to live your best life possible. This can be achieved by finding what makes you feel yellow, resulting in lasting happiness.

Our minds are programmed to find faults and failures, this mindset can be altered by appreciation, instead of living in your familiarity and having expectations. Practising gratitude daily or seeking the positive in any given situation has improved successful in reaching fulfilment. Appreciate the little things such as your child looking directly into your eyes as they speak, that they want to fully connect with you or the text message from your partner wishing good night, they’ve taken the time to let you know they love you and are thinking of you. The energy that radiates your being will be infectious – people will feel the appreciation and often than not, repeat the act.

Science of achievement + Art of Fulfilment = Yellow!

 

Ready to go deeper on this topic with the master of personal development, Tony Robbins? 

Purchase one of his top selling books on personal achievement: Unlimited Power

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